Have you heard the term False Start? Many parents, especially if you’re a NEW parent, have never heard of this. A False Start is when you put your baby to bed for the night and they are up again in Less than an hour.
Typically a false start means your baby is waking again within 30-45 min. As a tired mama, there is nothing WORSE than a false start! You’re exhausted and have finally gotten your baby down for the night and JUST as soon as you’re about to jump in the shower or feed yourself dinner, your baby is up!
Why do False Starts Happen?
Your Baby is Overtired
The most common reason for false starts is an overtired baby. Babies that are up too long or too late for their age tend to be overstimulated when going to bed. Their cortisol will spike, this is what happens when you miss their wake window (hyperlink wake window chart) and now they are wired.
Babies that go to bed overtired will be difficult to get to sleep and won’t likely stay asleep for long. This is because cortisol (our stress hormone) is elevated when it should be at its lowest. Cortisol should be the highest when your baby wakes in the morning. Cortisol is also responsible for waking us up. Then as the day goes on, it very slowly declines until we go to bed. It stays low all night until it slowly starts ramping up again shortly before it’s time to wake in the morning.
But when your baby misses his sleep window, cortisol will elevate to help keep your baby awake (since he wasn’t put down for bed when he was first sleepy) But then once you do put him down for bed, cortisol is still fighting to keep him awake. This is why avoiding an overtired baby is so very important! One of the easiest ways to do this is by making sure you understand your baby’s wake windows.
What To Do
Monitor your baby’s naps and bedtime carefully. Know that short naps, no catnap (if younger than 8 months), or too much awake time before bed can cause your young baby to become overtired quickly. This is why I am not a fan of having a set bedtime until your baby is older. Don’t ever make the mistake of keeping your young baby up to a set bedtime when they are clearly tired and ready to go to sleep! Nothing good will come from this and it’s completely counterproductive.
2. Your Baby is Still Hungry
If your baby didn’t get a full feed before bed they may very well have a false start and wake within an hour of being put down. They are simply waking to finish their feed. This typically happens when a baby is so exhausted at bedtime that they are falling asleep at the breast or bottle.
What To Do
This is an easy fix! If your baby is falling asleep at the bedtime feed this is a sign that you need to back up bedtime. Here’s how to know that you timed bedtime right. Your baby can stay awake for the duration of the feed and they are actively sucking for the entirety of the feed. They are drowsy and ready for bed after the feed but not conked out!
Now, for a young baby, you may need to help stimulate them for feeding. This is normal and fine. But if you are stimulating them and there’s NOTHING you can do to keep them awake, and you know they haven’t had a full feed then that’s typically a sign that you waited too long to start the bedtime routine.
3. How To Calculate When Your Baby’s Bedtime Should Start
Let’s take a 3-month-old for example. A 3-month-old is typically going to have a wake window of one hour fifteen minutes or as long as one hour and a half. Now, this is IF they’ve had their naps for the day AND they’ve taken their catnap (the last nap of the day that typically falls somewhere around 4:30-5:30 pm)
If your baby’s catnap starts at 5:30 pm and he sleeps until 6:15 pm. Then we know that his bedtime routine should be ending at 7:30-7:45 latest. (That’s an hour and a half from the end of the catnap) This means he should be down by 7:30/7:45. So now work your way backward. How long does it take to get your baby ready for bed and do his feeding? Let’s just say ½ hour. (adjust according to your baby’s bedtime routine)
This means that your baby’s bedtime routine should START at 7:00-7:15. You don’t want to wait until your baby shows tired signs to start the bedtime routine. This guarantees an overtired baby going to bed.
4. Your Baby’s Sleep Environment Isn’t Optimized
Having a sleep-friendly environment is SOOO Important!! This is an easy fix and something I recommend parents do BEFORE baby even comes home. You don’t want to have to be figuring this out in those first few months when you’re sleep-deprived.
What To Do
If your baby is going down and the room isn’t as conducive to sleep as it should be, your baby may wake. It could be noisy siblings, too much light in the room, or a temperature that is too warm or too cool. I find that many families keep the baby’s room, or the house in general too warm for comfortable sleeping. The proper sleeping temperature is between 68-72 degrees. Yes, cooler is BETTER!! Dress your baby accordingly.
Here are some of my must-haves for setting up a Sleep Friendly Environment:
- Lectro Fan White Noise Machine
- Hatch Baby Rest White noise and Light
- Black Out EZ Window Shades
- Pottery Barn Black Out Curtains
This list isn’t exhaustive so if you’re looking for more options feel free to reach out to me. Sometimes all it takes is some small tweaks to make BIG changes.
5. Your Baby Isn’t In A Proper Swaddle
If you have a baby 4 months or younger and they’re not in a swaddle then this could be the reason they’re waking. Babies need to be swaddled to keep them from startling themselves awake. Young babies have a startle reflex and this reflex WILL wake them prematurely. You can literally lengthen a young baby’s sleep by HOURS by simply having them properly swaddled.
What To Do
Get your baby into a proper swaddle. When I say proper I mean something that is snug enough that they feel secure and cannot break out. Too much freedom within the swaddle and your baby will fight against it. A good swaddle should calm your baby and make them feel relaxed.
Here are a few of my favorites:
- Swaddle Me Swaddle – This is good for very young babies and it’s easy to use.
- Miracle Blanket Swaddle – This is great for babies older than 4 weeks as it has an arm capture to keep them from breaking out.
- Swaddle Me Pod- This comes in smaller and larger sizes and is good for babies who like their hands on their chest while they sleep. This can be used for Newborns all the way through to 4-6 months old and they also have an option for zip-off sleeves to help transition your baby to arms-free.
If you’ve tried all these things and your baby is Still struggling with false starts and you’ve tried All of these things, reach out to me and I will help you troubleshoot! It’s generally pretty easy for me to figure out why sleep isn’t happening and exactly what we need to do to fix it. I love to help my families find better, EASIER ways to create independent sleepers in their homes.